izkitties:

henkal:

thejoanne:

henkal:

my indian stalker Baj

OMG.. did he leave this at your home? Or give it to you in person? How freaky.

he left it at my place of work. Whenever I did the banking I would always get him as my teller…
…seriously f-r-e-a-k-y.

i’ve read this a couple of times henry, when you posted it on facebook a while ago and each time it makes me very sad, i don’t really think it is creepy, he seems so sincere. out of all the people in the world that are bad and rude and do terrible things i think baj is one to be admired and not discouraged. he is obviously brave for giving it to you and trying to make friends is not a crime! he is only 25 and in a country that he would still not be fully familiar with all the social customs, but obviously knows enough to figure that writing a nice letter to a person is a good way of getting across what you want to say! and even putting a little poem in there! you should be flattered hen! he obviously is insightful enough to see something good in you, so should be valued, not humilated! you could have had a nice indian friend, you could have taken him out! i hope baj finds a good friend to hang out with.

I do understand what you are saying izz, and before he wrote me this letter I actually said YES one time and that we should go and have a drink sometime at The Oaks… He told me that he doesn’t drink but that he could watch me drink… I think I laughed… But I don’t think he just wanted to be friends. The next few times he suggested we hang out I told him I was busy because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. However, the way he stroked me on my shoulder in my shop a few days beforehand, under the guis of buying a present for his nephew saying “You look really nice today!” can’t be mistaken for what it was, he was making a move and it made me feel uncomfortable.

I suppose I may of misconstrued his meaning and that he may not understand the social etiquette - but that is how he made me feel, I felt uncomfortable and like a boundary had been crossed. He’s been in Australia for 7 years.. Isn’t that long enough to grasp our social customs?